唔駛偷聽的男人心 (3)

Love of my life don't leave me,
You've stolen my love you now desert me

一般來說，我都不是太過喜歡舒情曲，當然亦偶有例外。

而這首Queen的Love of My Life就更是例外中的例外。這一首Love of My Life也是我比較早期接觸的一首Queen的作品，但其實我一直也對它沒有特別的偏好。

但我就是很喜歡這一個溫布萊版本，僅此而己。

早前跟朋友談起男人是否全都不會專一的問題。（「全部」其實本來就是一個很籠統的講法）有一點我都今天仍然企得很硬，就是如果男人遇到一個他很喜歡的女人，他的心是不會變的。如果七年之癢一下便癢走了，那個男人是「選擇」那個女人，用理性思維分析後而得出一個結果，這個女的不錯，就選她好了。

男人普遍都很實際，他起初是「選擇」的話，他任可時候都可以作出另一個選擇。

而且，有很多女人都很天真。有女人曾經跟我說從那個男人的眼神、態度便可以分辨到那個男人是否真的喜歡你，但她卻一次又一次因男人的花心而選擇分手。當然我不知道她是否把慾望之瞳看成情真意切，但那些「愛情至上」的女性，經常陶醉幻想自己擁有一段至死不渝的愛情，身邊那個男人一定愛他至死。

其實那是很不常見的。

要「至死不渝」，首先這兩個人一定要「天生一對」，只有「天生一對」的兩個人才可以互相不用遷就改變便能很好的相處幾十年，一樣不會變心，因為他跟你一起他很快樂（很多女人就是不明白，兩個人一起能夠自然、舒適、快樂才會長久）。愛情故事就是經常描述這種充滿偶然性的關係，不是說它不可能是事實，但現實中出現的機率比起愛情小說／電影所看到的比率一定要低很多。你看2012都認為主角等人避難能力過強，「有冇咁好彩呀？」，為何你又不認為鐵達尼號的那一段愛情是「有冇咁好彩呀？」富家女與窮小子一拍即合，認識不過一段短日子便認定終生，野戰都肯打，喂，你自己話喇？（一定很多人都說我沒有那麼笨，但這是嘴皮上說的，但內心仍意期待著這一種愛情）

所以由古至今的男女關係，都是那種「選擇與妥協」的關係佔大多數，就是那些夫妻相處之道所教的，你會去權衡這個人的本質，值不值得你去跟他一生，大家要做些甚麼才能好好相處，起碼，天生不能完全合拍，也可盡量把稜角磨平。這才是現實的一種尋找伴侶方式，由守株待兔變成主動尋找，由完全冇腳影足變成家家有可能。你自己說，由七十億人之中慢慢碰到那三、四十個「天生一對」而又成功走在一起，你要花多少時間，需要多少運氣？由七十億人中最接近你的數百個人之中「選擇及妥協」一個人出來，那就容易很多喇。

「愛情唔應該係咁垷實。」

哦。

Love of my life can't you see,
Bring it back bring it back,
Don't take it away from me,
Because you don't know what it means to me

MR.BIG ♪ Daddy, Brother, Lover, Little Boy ♪ budoukan 2009/6/20 ﹣ I‘ll be your music lover and your fan boy lol

As a music lover:

Intro

first verse
first chorus
hook line

music break (with main riff, Paul Gilbert short shredding)

second verse
second chorus
hookline (outragging delivery by Eric Martin)

music break (counter section, guitar + bass shredding kicks into guitar solo)
music break (counter section, guitar + bass electric drill solo, end with artificial harmonics attacks by Paul Gilbert)

third chorus
forth chorus(melody variation)
hook line
hook line(melody variation)

outro

The form is fucking exciting! right? a really good balance on repetition, variation and contrast. many unexpectation, many details with heart and soul to arrange. A exciting arrangement mixed with catchy melody, energetic vocal and excellent instrument playing. Fucking awesome.

As fan boy:

- Paul Gilbert “Got a tail" 很可愛 =]
- Paul Gilbert跟Billy Sheehan合唱Let's live for today，很經典 =O
- Pat Torpey "Whatever happens, so what?" Billy Sheehan "What happens in the broadcast station broadcast" 很無聊 =D
- 有人唱Peggy Sue就更無聊 =D
- Paul Gilbert & Billy Sheehan 低音和音好正 =OO
- Paul Gilbert Fing頭很好笑 =DD
- Eric Martin 揮拳都很可愛 ＝P
- Billy Sheehan係電鑽果段個樣很chok =DDDD
- Eric Martin搵電鑽追Paul Gilbert果段很幼稚 =DDDDD
- Eric Martin同Billy Sheehan合唱 ”that you“ 果段很和諧 =PP（解散時係因為佢兩個合作不來)
- 觀眾合唱完之後Eric Martin舉手個樣真心真心最可愛 =DDDDDDDDD
- Sorry Pat Torpey loooooooooool

[電影] Sucker Punch

- Sucker Punch在香港的譯名叫作《天姬戰》，大家當然一聽便感到是跟多年前Twins主演、由宇宙最強擔任動作指導的《千機變》諧音。而台灣叫《殺客同萌》，其實除了Babydoll以外大家都不太萌，而Sweet peas的女主角由外型至身型都殺氣十足，非常有型。倒是內地按慣例用了一個非常直接的譯名《出其不意》。當然，中文與英文，意思是譯了過來，是Sucker Punch兩個字帶出來的那種粗俗色彩及力量感到褪去了。或許叫做《無賴拳》會比較好？(唔……不會)

- 導演是300(戰狼300)的Zack Snyder。在300與Sucker Punch之間的另一套作品是Watchmen《守護者》(容許我略過在另一套Zack的作品，動畫《貓頭鷹守護神》)。跟300一樣，Watchmen也是從漫畫原著改篇過來的電影。而Sucker Punch則是Zack自己監製、導演兼有份參與劇本創作的電影，也是說，是一套完全屬於他的電影。300雖然是有原著可參，但這一個Frank Miller的故事其實很簡單，就是一個雄血英雄的故事。而Watchmen則是一個陰暗很多的故事，同樣是英雄末路，Watchmen帶出來的那種無奈及被現實打倒的挫敗感卻很能夠打動人。(我一直都話，要呃人好易，我跟本冇睇過Watchmen！咁當然，我睇過Trailer，睇過某啲Scenes啦，唔會完全憑空老吹)

- 其實我已經很久沒有入戲院看電影。而起初我亦沒有對Sucker Punch提起特別大的興趣，但當我看過Trailer及Wiki，發現我居然沒有看懂它說的是甚麼。所以，我決定要進戲院一看，我知道我會喜歡的。

- 而我的確很喜歡。片中主要演員都演得很好。

- 當然，Sucker Punch這種使用大量特效及強烈動作再加上美少女，如此多糖衣已經令很多「劇情型」「智慧型」「懶有智慧型」的「電影迷」戒心全起。而那個比較瘋狂的敘事手法便連入了場的人都會大感不滿，認為被騙了進場。一句講哂：「都唔知佢係到做乜」。

- 喜歡的人當然很喜歡。「好似係到打機咁」是我看過其中一個很準確的評語。單挑武士、戰場打喪屍兵、屠龍等等，就像一個又一個電腦遊戲。這分明就是一個又一個幻想曲類電腦遊戲的任務。而Zack Snyder這次在沒有原作的分鏡可供參考之下，分鏡剪接效果一樣非常出色。奇幻的畫面加上Zack Snyder不遜Quetin Tarantion或Robert Rodriguez一流選曲，聲色都可說是完美。

- 我最喜歡的配樂，當然是屠龍一段，用上了Search and Destroy(原曲Iggy Pop)的一個改編版本。不過，效果最好的，可能是拆彈一段用了Tomorrow never knows(原曲The Beatles)的改編版。看，Classic Rock的影響力還在 =D

- 「都唔知佢係到做乜」。但其實故事很簡單，「女配角」被陷害，關進了精神病院，五天內要找辦法逃出，五名同伴一起行動，最後「女配角」自我犧牲，讓「女主角」一個人逃出生天。這不是清楚明白嗎？

- 「為甚麼精神病院是舞廳？」「為甚麼跳舞變了打機？」這不是屬於我們自己的答案？我們去表達一件事喜歡用比喻，我們為一個問題尋找一個答案是很多時也需要聯想。把一間精神病院內所發生的事說得好像一個舞廳一樣，不是很有趣也很準確嗎？我們的潛意識就像一個智者，我們的意識像(往時的)貞操一樣寶貴，這些都是很好的比喻。「這是說故事的人的說法？」「這是Babydoll的想像？」「這是導演的想像？」自由一點，如果這個是你的故事，你自己的想法是甚麼？

- 事實這就是你的故事。任何藝術，包括音樂、電影、畫作，無論它走的是那一種路線、用那一個方法、作者要表達的是甚麼……你吸收了以後，重點不是把它重覆一遍，重點是你從所吸收到的客觀事實，得出了一種屬於你自己的看法。我以為在這裡寫過的一些有關音樂的東東，很有趣地聽過有人一點又一點地在對談中一字不漏地當作自己的看法(我知道那是我的觀點來，因為一字不漏)。我想說的是，如果你對你所吸收到所見所聞有一點點你自己的意見，跟本無必要替自己去找一個枷鎖，亦無用搬字過紙，甚至只是仰賴權威的搬字過紙。客觀的事物接收了，那你可以按它作出主觀的想像與判斷嗎？我們一直需要的，不就是思想的自由？

- 你還要去想Zack Snyder到底在講甚麼嗎？這個跟本一直不是Zack Snyder的故事，這是屬於看電影的你的故事。

- 這就是我看到的Suck Punch故事的意義。

Bob Dylan

"Ladies and gentlemen please welcome the poet laureate of rock 'n' roll. The voice of the promise of the 60s counterculture. The guy who forced folk into bed with rock. Who donned makeup in the 70s and disappeared into a haze of substance abuse. Who emerged to find Jesus. Who was written off as a has-been by the end of the '80s, and who suddenly shifted gears releasing some of the strongest music of his career beginning in the late '90s. Ladies and gentlemen — Columbia recording artist Bob Dylan!"

The above is the Bob Dylan introduction made before his show. This introduction have been using by his band members since 2002.

Let's me try not to sound like an expert. I'm no Dylan's expert. For his near 50 years musical career, his record collection is definitely too much for me to trace back.

Now, let's getting start with the show first. Dylan's show has been getting mix critical responses. Many people has pointed out Dylan's gigs are more like a "guess this song" game. One of the reasons is he has so many songs during this 50 years. take it into mind it's not a re-union tour of the former great. Dylan never stops composing music. The other reason is, he always "reinvent" his songs in live gigs. Different arrangement, different melodies, different phrasing. Usually people has to get the song by the lyrics, even the fans who has a solid Dylan collection, has to join the "guess this song" game.

Most of the people resist to go to a show with unfamiliar artists. How about an artists perform familiar songs unfamiliarly? haha.

IMHO, Bob Dylan doesn't even bother to entertain you in a live show. That's how many people don't like it. Take it if you like it. During the curtain call, Dylan stood still and saying nothing. He was even the first one turnaround and leave. He doesn't even care about your feeling.

Cool.

As I mentioned, I can't play the "guess the song" game. Of cause I can get those more popular one. He performed some really solid blues, jazzy and some great rock'n'roll. And I think Dylan did the best on hamonica, and keyboard then guitar, but he did some lead playing himself as well. His voice? that's the voice of Dylan. =) Personally, I'll also agree this is not the most exciting gigs I have ever attended. But going a gig is an experience. And I think I have a good damn night, musically and also emotionally.

Okay, now get to the point. This Asia of the tour become controversial as you all know. Because it's right at the moment the great regime did it once again, this time, to Ai Wei Wei the artist. Now someone criticize Dylan's silence on the human right matters. Dylan let the government censored the songs supposed to be sensitive(although they let some actually quite sensitive song to be performed, ironically) so he can perform also make many people unhappy.

Bob Dylan hasn't been a protest song singers for many years. Now people still expecting he is the "voice of the generation"? It's because people doesn't really know about Dylan's career. Yet they still keep the strongest image of Dylan in their mind. And they expect Dylan will act like what he supposed to be in their mind.Seriously, most people do. Even the most smart person somehow will make the same mistake. Because it's easy. We all try to simplify things even we know it's complex. A person is always complex. Who can't just stereotype or simply expect people to act or speak the things you suppose they will.

Do you really know what Bob Dylan has been doing?

Bob Dylan did perform "Ballad Of A Thin Man" =)

"But something is happening here and you don't know what it is. Do you? Mister Jones"

唔駛偷聽的男人心 (2) - 唔駛偷聽的女人心

facebook四個女性share，四個唔同comment，你自己諗下，覺得邊一個人最難搵老公。(不記名，一笑無妨 =] )

1)Like!

2)又學到野.

3)其實你想有女性傾慕你... 咁你都想想自己有咩野方面可以令女性去傾慕你...

4)d男人做咩係咁SHARE出黎JACK!? 係咪想叫香港女仔聽下PART 2最尾個幾句? 我都覺得BEN講得好岩! :P

唔駛偷聽的男人心 (1)

嘩，偷聽男人心節目出街，社交網絡界當然好大迴響。

好多人從好多唔同角度去講。係twitter或者facebook都好多回應，其中真心有好多人拎住香蕉俱樂部既Bob講換燈膽果一到黎講。

Bob講果一度，係話佢老婆識得氹佢，換一個燈膽就讚佢好叻。換一個燈膽係咪好叻，係咪值得一讚，其實大家都知道唔係重點。重點係兩個人既溝通之道，佢老婆識得令到佢覺得好舒服。

兩個人要溝通舒服，唔一定要換個燈泡都讚叻，呢個係例子，唔係論點呀下。

我自己睇黎，整個節目大家講既重點其實亦只係響呢一度，唔同男人所講聽落唔同既point，其實重點就係香港好多女人好容易令人唔舒服。好勝心強，傾傾下就鍾意認叻、自尊心強要面子、任何場景地方都可以亂發脾氣、唔肯付出、冇興趣就傾多句都費事唔識尊重人……

就算你外表幾靚，外在條件幾好，呃到幾多人追你，但相處時極唔舒服，一樣好容易散。(我都未計追女仔只係玩玩下，呃蝦條，一開始都冇諗過會同你結婚果啲)

講返轉頭，係facebook所見，有啲仍然未婚未拖既女性，依然係不停「我想要……」「想我點，咁你就須要……」就算你既要求係唔駛有錢唔駛靚仔，只需要有頭髮，但你同佢相處時仍然係「我想要……」「想我點，咁你就須要……」總會令對方吃不消的。

有錢人、靚仔、無頭髮既人，都多過被精神被虐狂。

女人既問題。咁男人既問題當然都有，我都見好多添，有心機先講。

我是一隻小小鳥

其實，我彈得唔係幾好聽。

日本能，香港人不能？

日本災民在關東311大地震表現出來的紀律性以及團結精神，受到國際間的讚賞。

在災難之前，仍然能夠守望相助，有紀律地逃避災難，這的確是其他國家以至民族，很難做得到的事。

這是基於日本本來就是一個天災國家，阪神地震亦不過十多年前，人民的心理準備及災難訓練亦相對充分。

當然，更重要的是日本人的民族性。而日本人這一種守紀律、有禮貌的行為表現，亦是其中一個我喜歡到日本旅行的理由。

在這個網絡世代，網上族群又開始討論比較香港人以及日本人。

香港人喜歡投訴，香港人喜歡將自身利益放於道理之前，我亦非常同意。(迷思一：有香港人經常投訴香港人醜陋，凡事只會喜歡投訴，這是否他/她個人行為體現亦如她口中的香港人一般醜陋？也許是，他/她也是香港人)

當然，這是客觀的評論，沒有爭拗的餘地。但這是否代日本人質素比香港人高？這一個命題本身是一個多元的問題，只從地震中日本人的表現就作結論，是片面的。這只能作其中一個舉證。

我喜歡看有關新選組的故事，新選組的旗幟上是一個「誠」字(我還有兩件tee喇)，這一個「誠」不是指「誠實」，而是指「誠忠」。新選組是一群浪士，局長及副局長都是農民出身而升格作為武士的人，他們對「武士道」的概念有著一種執念，亦用來作為隊中的「教條」，亦是所謂的「局中法度」，這亦是大島渚大導演所拍的有關新選組的電影名字「御法度」的由來(故事取材自司馬遼太郎的新選組血風錄)。

武士道就是日本人版本的道德規範。宗教信仰類的道德規範以「神的愛」，失德的人就是「得不到神的愛」。而士道的道德規範，就是多\以「榮譽」為本。士道中，失去了「榮譽」的人要感到「羞恥」，而切腹就是武士挽回榮譽的最後手段。這跟宗教信仰一樣，以教條在約束人民的行為以及道德(再將善行化成潛意識中的行為，起碼我認為是如此)，大概類似。

而這一種精神亦做就了今天日本人的民族性的其中一面。他們對行為規範有著絕對的忠誠，以保持榮譽；固守紀律、順從集體所作的規範，就不會失去「榮譽」亦不用「羞恥」(即使他們內心很想搶先上車，但他們以知這會失去「榮譽」而不去幹)。所以，他們對上級的命令，無論是他們看不出當中的問題，還是心中有疑慮，一樣會忠誠地完成。在極端的條件　，還包括殺人。

而亦因為這種對規條的絕對遵從，日本不是一個善於理性思考的民族，亦因此平均邏輯能力不高(這亦做就了日本文化的濫情主義、又或是做小事情一絲不苟、大事情時常有的邏輯混亂)。日本人在發生諸如地震之類的事情時，團結優秀守紀律的行為背後，未必是經過理性思考而得到「我應該如此做」，而是去先順從地思考自己是否失去「榮譽」以及感到「羞恥」(當然，這種思考可能是在潛意識之中)，再得出「我應該如此做」的結論。因此日本人除了因為社會上的嚴格紀律受著沉重壓力，亦因自身的羞恥心而令壓力加倍。這亦做就了日本成為一個高自殺率及兇殺率的國家，這就是因為很多人容易「羞恥」，亦容不下「羞恥」。

而日本人對責任以及「羞恥」的執著，亦令他們很容易誤了大事，不能從大處著眼。例子？你想想東電為甚麼要冒險隱暪核反應堆的狀況？他們害怕完成不了自己的責任，他們害怕「羞恥」地蠻幹。

這就是我自己看到的日本人(當然我也只是不懂裝懂，只是一點個人意見)。各個民族或是地區人口，其「民族性」也自其背景、歷史、以及居住環境發展出來(那就更不用說，因為他們的國土是一個缺乏資源又天災連連的細小島國，所以對外侵略是積極的)。我們看到他們的優點，但亦沒有必要放大他們的優點，忽視他們的缺點。他們做得到的，我們的確做不到。但我們做得到的，他們也一定做得到嗎？

當然，我們都很清楚香港人的缺點。問題是，你願意去看一看我們優點在那嗎？

最後不忘一句：Pray For Japan。

自學貝司小貼士 (1)

自學貝司/低音結他/結他練習小貼士：平時返工/學太攰，冇心機去跟堂上/練啲好複習既譜/睇書仔，可以試下拎一個scale，用同一個position不停上上落落咁彈(但都要keep住個beat)，唔一定要所有音符彈足，可以跳跳下咁彈。

1. 彈出黎既野一定唔會錯音，會覺得自己好勁
2. 你平時彈既野其實都係包住係個scale入便，你右手股肉會熟習左彈好多唔同音程(Interval)
3. 對自己solo/run即興(Improvisation)同耳仔都有幫助
4. 雖然有點亂黎，但其實都係練緊scale，唔係冇目標咁練

重點：4. 慳精力，唔多駛用腦

呢條片入面既即興，其實就係咁練返黎。

Meeting another face of the god: Eric Clapton

You may like apple over orange, or vice versa. Will you say, apple is better than orange as a fruit?

Nearly a year ago, we have Jeff Beck "The Guitar God"(stated in the promo poster) live in Hong Kong. Last night, we have Eric Clapton (a fan of him sprayed a graffiti "Clayton is god" in an Britain underground station around 60s, which helped to create the content of one of the most famous photo in rock music).

Two guitarists from the same generation started at playing the blues. They both have played in the band "The Yardbirds" as the lead guitarist(Another famous rock guitarist from The Yardbirds was Jimmy Page of Led Zeppelin) as well. It's difficult for us not to ask the question "Who is better?", sometimes.

This sort of question maybe "inappropriate" in music. Music is not a competition. However It's not like comparing guitarists across genres; they started exactly at the same time in the same root and playing the same music. They have even played in the same band one after another(Eric Clapton first and then Jeff Beck). You really will have this question pop-up somehow.

Last night, Clapton had the best sound ever I have experienced in the Asia Expo. I guess they have lowered the volume a bit to resolve the technical difficulties. The drum didn't out-volume the rest. The bass was cleared. Everything was audible in a lower volume level. Without any supporting acts, the show started relatively on time with a good sound.

It didn't test the patience and tolerance of the crowds as many shows in the Asia World Expo did.

The show started in electric. After the first "climax" with a Bob Marley cover "I shot the sheriff", Clapton changed to an acoustic set. Started with unplugged performances including "Drifting Blues", Clapton did the following acoustic set with a Gibson electric acoustic, and the acoustic set ended with another climax piece "Layla". Clapton used only one electric guitar in the whole night, his Fender Stratocaster. With some driven blues/rock'n'roll and also the popular "Wonderful Tonight", the show was pushed to the highest moment and has become a dancing party, and ended with a long encore piece around 22:30. Notably, the organist took quite a heavy solo responsibility, for once he has used talkbox too. They other keyboardist also had his moment, doing solo in pieces like "Cocaine".

Jeff Beck used two guitars for the whole night, a Strat and a Tele, where Eric Clapton used three.

After tonight, I think I find my own answer on this "Who is better?" question. If you believe the best guitarist can be renowned as the "Guitar God", and asked if Clapton or Beckis the guitar god, I think I would tell you, Eric Clapton and Jeff Beck, are the two faces of Guitar God.

Beck's show was like a "showcase". What Jeff Beck did is really pushing the limit on how the guitar can sound on his hands. He played fusion jazz, blues, funk, played his own rendition of "The Beatles", "Sly & the familiy Stones", "Rod Stewart" or even "Judy Garland" and"Luciano Pavarotti". He re-created many vocal music to instrumental and interpret it with his guitar. With mixing the pitch bending, volume and string attacking skills all the time, it's all about the control on the instrument on his own hand. Beck kept focus on pushing forward, experiment as an innovator on guitar playing. And that's what Eric Clapton said about Jeff Beck, "He is unique", "With Jeff, it's all in his hands". In an interview together Clapton admitted there are things that Jeff Beck can play on his guitar and he can't. And I would like to believe Clapton on this. That's how unique Jeff Beck is, and that's how Jeff Beck is never a popular sweetheart. ($690-$890, barely 2/3 of the arena was filled)

On the other hand, Eric Clapton played for the people. His music is more accessible, more friendly and easy. For what he has wandered around, "The Yardbirds", "Cream", or solo career, Clapton for once admitted he has never walked too far away from the blues. His guitar playing is carefree(but precise), relax and so easy(although his stuff is really easy, no way). Rather than taking challenge on making impossible become possible on his guitar, his technical prowess are really on how he made the guitar as a part of his body's extension, which he is famous for. His guitar, his music, his bands and himself were "grooved" so well that, everything was comfort and enjoyable. Clapton kept his focus on playing decent and enjoyable music.(from $488 to $1488, full house)

They started on the same root, taking their own approach and walking on their own path. There maybe common elements on their music, but their attitude to music and guitar are so different. They have got something what the other doesn't.

They are just two faces from the Guitar God.

You may like apple over orange, or vice versa. Apple or Orange, your choice.